As some of you already know I started my gambling recovery exactly 7 years ago! In this article, I’m going to show you the beginning of my recovery and what made me stop gambling.
Why I decided to stop gambling
Well, we all dream of stopping gambling, but we’re waiting for the lucky day to come when we win big, pay off our debts and then quit gambling. Does it sound familiar?
I’m afraid it does, but that lucky day never comes and we end up losing everything and more. This is what happened to me. One day I got to the point where my debts reached £50k, I had no money for food, nappies, bills, rent .. I was completely broke!
Exactly 7 years ago I realised that the only way to stop this is to reveal my secret and tell my wife about everything ( the only person who didn’t know about me gambling). I rolled myself a cigarette, went out in front of the house, then I called her out to announce that I have a problem which has a huge impact on our family, including our 9 months old son.
She didn’t expect it at all. I told her how much I lost and explained everything that’s happened over the last 2 years.
All I remember from that day is that for the first time I realised that I’m about to lose everything, including my family. Also the question – “How much?!” repeated several times has been thrown at me, ..but I didn’t have the answer.
Starting my Recovery Day 1
I decided that no matter what, I have to get up and fight my addiction, and start paying off my debts. The fact that 5 months later my wife with our son ( 9 months old) finally moved out, didn’t make things any easier!
I knew that I have to find the way out, find out how much money I owe and make a plan. I needed to make that first step to my recovery by dealing with the problem and not relying on others to fix something I fucked up. People will feel sorry for you, a few of them will try to help, but the reality is that majority of people don’t know how to help a gambler.
It doesn’t matter how much you lost: £5k, £50k or £250k, sooner or later you’ll have to face the consequences of being a gambler, the longer you wait the harder it gets to recover.
Becoming more aware of your spendings can improve your financial situation from the day one! So, this was the very first thing I did, highly recommended. When reviewing my expenses I was able to save/make a lot of money, in my case that was about £200/month (£2.4k/ year!) I spent long hours researching the best deals, cheaper insurance providers, cheaper internet, switching energy & gas suppliers and etc. it was worth every minute I spent and every penny I saved. Nowaday, it can take you only a few minutes to see how much you can save using comparison sites like Go Compare.
I prepared a list for you of things that can help you save a lot of money and improve your financial situation today!